Sunday, August 24, 2008

Is it love or lust? How to tell if it's just a booty call

How do you tell if a man is really interested in you…or in going to bed with you?

At some point in a woman’s life, she would really meet a man who, one way or another, would go to great lengths just for a booty call or no-strings-attached sex. In a moment of weakness, some women really do fall for the act—and end up regretting it. So beware of these men and be among the smart ones who elude them. Here are the red flags to take note of:

He only calls late at night. “Late night calls do not equal serious intentions,” reads the article “10 Signs a Man is Not Ready to Commit.” If he only calls late at night, shouldn’t that make you wonder what he could possibly be doing between 8AM to 9PM? Surely, at some point between those hours, he’ll find the time to call or at the very least exchange a few text messages with you. Unless he has a really strict or erratic schedule, if the man has any respect for you, he will call you in a reasonable hour.

He Only Comes to See You Late at Night. He is always too busy to come see you during the day, but as soon as it gets dark (or sometimes in the wee hours of the morning) he’s suddenly at your doorstep—or inviting you to meet up. Similar to late night calls, unless he has a pretty good excuse not to see you during the day, don’t fall for it. The biggest giveaway: the venue. Is it always either at your house or his—behind closed doors? If a guy is truly into you, he will make an excuse to see you during the day.

He is totally focused on your looks and body—and not on anything you have to say. Askmen.com tells men that it’s lust if they only care about a woman’s looks and body, already fantasizing about what it would be like to have sex with her. Take a hint. Are you barely talking when you’re out together, and you only see him staring mesmerized at your face—and other parts of your body for that matter? Don’t be fooled; it’s not pure-hearted adoration, trust us. Does he seem bored or irritated when you’re hanging out in a place and situation that could not possibly lead to some action? Or can he go for days or weeks without talking to you? If you answered “yes” to these, whatever he has for you can only be lust.

He does not do things that indicate he’s in love with you. In the same article, Askmen.com lists signs that a man is falling for a woman. If he’s not doing any of the things that spell he’s in love with you—such as finding you beautiful even when you look your worst, wanting to spend so much time with you no matter the activity or time of day, introducing you to his family and friends, among other things—and instead does the red flags we’ve listed above, you know what to do: get out of that potential mess.

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